Crises and failed marital union can be traced to some of the following ills:
A-Anger: Anger is one letter short of danger.Most decisions taken in anger mood often result badly ,either fighting,quarel or malice.This is a canker that must be avoied.
B-Bitterness: Bitterness is a state of esentment and disappointment at being treated unfairly. This has torn familes and marriages apart because it was not avoided. It cost more to be bitter and leaves the person with nursed unhealed injury that could even lead to health issues.
G-Conflict:This is a serious disagreement or argument which is usually protracted and can lead to crises and even divorced when not properly managed.
D- Drift communication: this is when there is a drift in communication between couples, as can be seen in situation when couple communnicate through notes, househelp or children to one another as a result of the absence in direct communication. This is killer disease in marriage.
E- Emulation: This is when spouse tries to model and measure thier marriage with the standard of another family. This leads o compettion among families.
F- False life: This is living outside the budget f the family. This act of runningbthe family on budget deficit is killing marriages.
G-Greed: This is the intense and selfish desire for something, especially wealth, power, or food.It can make spouse to so push on the other to make wrong decisions and choices.
H-House Help Kpalava:When the house help does better cooking and house keeping than the woman of the house ,it is a window for infidelity and consequent divorce.
I-Incorrigibility:When aspouse becomes incorrigible ,he or she cannot lunlearn nor learn.Thishas led to many failed marriage and homes.
J-Judgemental Attitude: This makes either of the couple in marriage conclude on matters before hearing out the other party.This can open the door to prejudice and confussion.
K-Knave;This a rascal dishonest and base behaviour that cannot be hidden for long.It has sent many couples apart because it was not taken care of or corrected.
L-Libido :Libido refers to the sexual desire or satisfaction level of an individual. When this is not properly managed by adjustment by either couples oafter consultation or counselling,marriages can begin to experience unfaitfulness. I i have seen it break up marriages as well
M-Mismanagement :Mismanagement can cause marriages to fail.Mismanagement of funds allocated for specific family project or misamanagement of joint fund account by either couple can cause a marriage to fail.
N-Nagging: Nagging can be from the woman or even the man. When nagging becomes frequent,it puts the spouse off and tend to make him or her find solace outside the marriage.
O-Opposition to In-laws:We live in Africa ,where the in-lws play some roles in determining whether a person is welcome into a marriage in peace or for war..Frequent Direct confrontations with in-laws spell doom for many marriages,
P-Pride of place,posiion and parent status can negatively affect the peace of a mrriagre when it is allowed to be a determinant or reference point.
Q-Quack cook: The problems of quack and incompetent wife as a cook for the family can affect and spark conflict in homes.It could even lead to unfaithfulness in some.As it is commonly said "Th eroad to a man's gerat is his belly'.
R-Repitition and recall of offences:Repitition of offences or wrong inthe family either between couple or between parents and children will crack the wall of love and love and could lead to nagging
.S-Suspicion: Suspicion a child of unfaithfulness.When open trust and lack of personal secret is key,suspicion wil be far .
T-Tlale-bearing :This is a sister to talkative ness. A tale bearer will always be a rumour monger and spread unfounded stories which could affect individuals and even families.It can set marriages apart and cuse confussion in homes.It is a canker.
U-Unforgiveness: Unforgiveness can kill a relationship or even marriages. It leads to acrimony.
V-Violence: Violence inthe home is called "domestic violence" This has lead to unintended death of some spouses' The beating up of a wife or a husband as the case my be is a sign of a failed mrriage.
W-Whoredom: This ist he practice of unlawful intercourse with the other sex; fornication; lewdness..This is the act of offering sexual intercourse for pay.When this is practiced as a result of past life or addiction.It is a sign of failed marriage
X-Xenodochial: This is the act of bing hospitable and kind to strangers. This has made some mother in-laws bard their dugghter in-law a spend thrift and a waster of their children 's resources.When when properly managed,it can brew into stale relationshionship between daughter in-law and mother in-law.
Y-Yappy:This is the act of talkativeness or being loquacious. A loquacious fellow can't be far from been a liar. Lies telling can stale relationship and severe family ties.
Z-Zonked Attitude: This is when a spouse returns home and is completely tired due to work fatique. When this is not properly manage it will lead to frequent sex denials and lose of marital bonding.